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Posted by binsar on 13 Feb 2008 at 10:32 pm | Tagged as: Love, Opinion
This page shall be dedicated to host my opinions on life and love.
Let me start with a little story of how my opinion on how love comes grew:
- First I thought love will come when you are cool, can drive a car, ride a big motorbike, play one of the sports, play musical instruments, sing, and smart as well.
- Then I considered love as a gift. If you have one, its a gift and you should cherish it. I thought I was the object and love is the subject.
- Again I shifted, I was thinking about love as an agreement. If you had the agreement, you can develop your love to your partner. If the agreement fails, then love will fade away.
- After that I consider love as work. You should work on your love and not to take it as it is. You should work on your love to make things going. You will feel tired, bored, upset, but that’s just a small part of the package of happiness, laugh, self-improvement, and a mutual partner for yourself.
- Now I am still learning. I am starting to think that pure love is an unconditional love. If you can love someone or something without hoping to receive something back then you have found what true love is all about.
As you can see, my opinion on love grows. This does not mean that the later opinion is more correct than the previous ones. I started by thinking that love is something that will be given to you, now I am thinking that you should not expect something back. Its a life learn process, and I can still change in the future.
7 July 2007
I think I need to add something on that list. A friend told me that instead of building my life around the person whom I love, why don’t I build something together to the future. I could argue her opinion but I think she has a point as well. So here goes number 6.
6. Love should be built towards a new goal in life, together, without forsaking yours or hers (maybe, I’m not 100% sure).
7. I think love works in a funny way sometimes, even in a weird situation where you least expected. The most difficult things is to be able to hold back your feelings when you know that love is not possible to go on but you can’t deny your heart and still you want to have it. IT SUCKS BIG TIME!
updated 18th September 2007
Posted by binsar on 09 Dec 2007 at 02:53 pm | Tagged as: Love
Christmas is coming near and you can feel love everywhere and I thought why not put my favorite love songs here. These songs have their own reason to be on the list. They all have sweet and bitter memories. Here are my 20 all time favorite love songs:
1. Billy Joel – Just The Way You Are (click here for youtube link)
2. Basil Valdez – You (click here for youtube link)
3. Michael Buble – Everything (click here for youtube link)
4. The Beatles – I Will (click here for youtube link)
5. Max – Can’t Wait Until Tonight (click here for youtube link)
6. George Benson – Nothing Gonna Change My Love For You (click here for youtube link)
7. Daniel Sahuleka – You Make My Life So Colourful
8. Andrew Lloyd Webber’s Phantom of The Opera – All I Ask (click here for youtube link)
9. Lighthouse Family – Lost In Space (click here for youtube link)
10. Goo Goo Dolls- Iris (click here for youtube link)
11. The Beatles – Here, There and Everywhere (click here for youtube link)
12. Michael Buble and Nelly Furtado – Quando Quando Quando (click here for youtube link)
13. Stevie Wonder – Overjoyed (click here for youtube link)
14. Slank – Ku Tak Bisa (click here for youtube link)
15. Warna – Oh Ya
16. Dewa 19 – Satu Hati (click here for youtube link)
17. Gigi – Nirwana (click here for youtube link)
18. All 4 One – So Much In Love (click here for youtube link)
19. Kerispatih – Cuma Manusia (click here for youtube link)
20. Kahitna – Cerita Cinta
Most of them are cheesy… but it’s my choice people!
Posted by binsar on 08 Dec 2007 at 12:04 pm | Tagged as: Article, Experience, Opinion
I’ve told you the story of my experience of working in Restaurant Selecta, now I’m going to give you a bit of analysis on the difference of woking culture in that restaurant. I’m going to use Fons Trompenaars and Charles Hampden-Turner theory on their book, Riding The Waves of Culture: Understanding Cultural Diversity in Global Business. This analysis was done in cooperation with Sally Siregar.
This restaurant is owned by a Dutch nationality, Chinese Indonesian by birth. The children of the owner are also working and even managing the restaurant. They are born as Dutch and have Dutch education, and know well what Dutch culture is. The working environment is a bit mix of two different poles in Trompenaar’s tools. Sometimes the working culture is even intertwined between the two sides. This makes the analysis on the restaurant working culture becomes interesting.
Posted by binsar on 07 Dec 2007 at 10:19 pm | Tagged as: Article, Opinion
At first I was not in to this social network thingy since I have my own real life outside, let alone I’ve already got too much on my hands with my Friendster and Blog. Since I have lots of invitations from friends who are already trapped within the network, I can’t see the harm in joining. But that started the curse on me. I was ensnared and bewildered in the confusing world of Facebook. This was exactly the thing that I’m looking for, more activities that can distract me from my important writing work.
After exploring it for some time, I was pretty much addicted. I understand now why it’s the second biggest social networking site behind Myspace.com, and why it has raised interest from Microsoft to invest $240 million for just its 1,6 percent stake. Now I can see why Facebook is even more popular than porn. You don’t believe me? I can’t believe it either until I saw this article by Bill Tancer. He is working at Hitwise where they check where people age 18-24 in the US go on the internet. It turns out that porn is not no. 1 hit. For people above 25, porn is still number one, but not for the current college generation. Social network is the first hit for people in this category, followed by search engine, web based email, and shockingly … porn stands in number four.
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Posted by binsar on 02 Dec 2007 at 07:16 am | Tagged as: Christianity, Opinion
Pertama ijinkanlah saya mengucapkan selamat buat sahabat, saudara, dan kolega saya Hendra Setia Prasadja yang ditahbis ke dalam jabatan pendeta di GKI pada hari ini. Hendra adalah seorang yang selalu berbagi suka dan duka dengan saya di masa perkuliahan dulu. Bersama Henry (vikaris GPIB) dan Ray (Penatua khusus GKI), kami bahkan memberi nama yang cenderung eksklusif bagi diri kami karena kedekatan yang tidak disengaja. Karena itu saya merasa sangat senang ketika Hendra mengabarkan berita penahbisannya dan meminta saya untuk menyumbangkan sebuah tulisan untuk buku acara hari bersejarahnya ini.
Belakangan ini banyak pertanyaan yang diajukan untuk menggugat teologi STT Jakarta yang katanya ‘liberal’. Dalam perbincangan dengan rekan mahasiswa, beberapa mengeluhkan bahwa mereka menjadi semakin jarang beribadah semenjak masuk STT Jakarta. Hati mereka menjadi guncang ketika sepertinya harus menentukan apakah mereka akan menjadi teolog atau pendeta. Entah pilihan ini sedang jadi trend atau bukan, kebimbangan ini dirasakan justru sesudah masuk STT. “Toh, STT Jakarta kan berfungsi melahirkan teolog, bukan pendeta” kata teman saya ini. Sepertinya STT Jakarta berfungsi mencetak pemikir-pemikir tangguh dalam bidang teologi (baca: teolog), dan gerejalah yang mencetak pendeta.
Pameo yang berkembang kemudian sepertinya teologi dan pembelajaran menjadi pendeta adalah berbeda. Bahkan lebih jauh lagi, sekarang banyak pemikiran bahwa seseorang bisa belajar teologi agama tertentu tanpa mengimaninya. Teologi adalah ilmu, jadi kita tidak perlu menjadi seorang yang percaya untuk dapat mempelajarinya. Saya berpikir bahwa ini bisa menjadi topik yang baik untuk ditulis untuk memberikan kesadaran akan pilihan-pilihan yang ada di dalam berteologi. Pertanyaan utamanya adalah apakah teologi dan iman bisa dipisahkan? Ini adalah sebuah perdebatan sepanjang masa yang masih hangat sampai saat ini.
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